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Thought I’d share some wife humor 🙂

Speaking of humor.. all relationships need it. I know mine does. Thankfully, my husband and I share a very similar sense of humor. We enjoy the same comedians, we both think that animals doing funny things, sports bloopers, and kids hitting their dad in the groin with baseball bats are hilarious (IT IS!!).

We could each come home in the worst mood, we had our own issues to deal with at work, we don’t want to talk about it over dinner, in fact, we don’t wanna talk to each other at all. The dishes get done in silence. We go to bed. One of us will start watching youtube videos. The other scootches over to see. We are still silent. Next thing you know, a cat dressed in a shark costume is sitting on a roomba with a baby duck. (If that doesn’t make you laugh…) Humor has saved the evening! We don’t rely on humor to keep our relationship strong or to fix anything. But it is for sure a help!

Being married now for 66 days (longest I’ve ever been married! 😉 woohoo! ), I am far from a professional when it comes to relationships and marriage. I’m a pre-rookie. I just made that up..  If I thought that I knew what arguments were, or what it means to compromise.. I was wrong. Married compromises and arguments, or as we call them, discussions, are soo different! You can’t just say “You’re wrong, I don’t want to be your wife anymore.” Being married is tough work! Not that I’m complaining, I absofrickenlutely love it! But It doesn’t get easier once you’re married! I wouldn’t say I’m learning that the hard way, I’m just learning it.

And on top of having to share a home with 2 smelly boys (one is 5 and the other is 27) I am non-stop researching Alameda, California for our upcoming move!! We leave in 23 days!! I’m looking for a place to live, a job, and activities for Dylan and I to get involved with so he can meet some kids before he starts kindergarten! I am doing all of this while working at my current job. Vacation anyone? Yes Please!

So once again, If you want to help me out with a job or rental home, I will be your best friend! 🙂

 

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What’s Love?

Whats Love got to do with it, Got to do with it?…  What is Love? Baby don’t hurt me, Don’t hurt me no more… As long as you Love me. 

Thank you Tina Turner, Night at the Roxbury and Justin Beiber.. (did I really just THANK the Beibs?!)

Lately I have been thinking a lot about Love. Not because tomorrow is Valentines Day, but it just seems to have been popping up lately.

I LOVE my best friend. I LOVE my morning coffee. I LOVE my car. I LOVE my child. Even though I feel LOVE for all of these, It isn’t all the same Love. Love isn’t simple. Love is expressed in so many ways.

I have been listening to a book on tape (great for my morning and evening commutes!) by Bob Goff. It is titled  Love Does. The story that I heard this morning was about a young man named Ryan who was head over heels in Love with his girlfriend. He was so crazy in Love that he asked a complete stranger if he could use his backyard as the backdrop for his wedding proposal. The stranger recognized this Crazy Love and agreed. Ryan then asked if he and his girlfriend could use their deck for dinner before he proposed. The stranger agreed. In the end, the stranger had let Ryan use his deck for dinner and dancing and took the young couple out on his boat for an evening sail. The Love that Ryan had and the excitement that took over him had taken this stranger by storm. The story ends with Ryan’s proposal on the stranger’s boat on a beautiful starry night.. topped off with water cannons, that the stranger had set up to add to the magic and excitement of the evening. The stranger was Bob Goff. In this story he explains how Ryan’s, almost idiotic, Crazy Love was contagious, and he was so happy to say ‘Yes’ to Ryan’s requests. Yes, I teared up a bit in the car, I am a SUCKER for stories like this! Oh, By the way, Ryan’s girlfriend said ‘Yes’ 🙂

Bob says ‘Love is never stationary’. It isn’t something that just sits there, waiting. It’s an active, mental, emotional, physical thing. You have to do something with it, for it. Saying ‘I love you’ or that you Love something is almost an empty act. Doing something for Love is what proves your point. Doing something every time isn’t always necessary. (I know I don’t need a dozen roses every time I hear “I Love you”)

Love is so strong. It is so powerful. I don’t fully know it. I’m sure lots of people don’t understand it.

As a mother, I have learned to Love deeply. The Love I have for my child is a greater Love than I could ever imagine. As I tuck him in and kiss him goodnight, I tell him “I love you”. And the response I get is “Love you too, mom!” Just hearing that melts my heart. I can’t even explain to him how my heart hurts from all the Love I have for him.  

I enjoying Loving. I enjoy being Loved. I look forwards to learning how to Love more. 

In conclusion, I would LOVE to have another cup of coffee 🙂

“In the end, love doesn’t just keep thinking about it or keep planning for it. Simply put: love does” -Bob Goff

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