Children think they know.. but they have noooo idea!


I told a friend yesterday  “God wouldn’t give you a challenge if he didn’t think you could rock it!”

I found myself saying that again today. To myself!

            I am currently going through some struggles of strength. How strong am I? I don’t mean physical strength, I know I can carry a 35lb child through the zoo, no problem 😉  But Mental Strength, Spiritual Strength and my Strength in Trusting. All of these tie into my overall Strength as a Parent.

“Do not pray for easy lives. Pray to be stronger men! Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for powers equal to your tasks.”

    I belong to a wonderful support group, women young and old, who are in or have been in the young single mom situation. Some of the older women act as advocates to the younger. Whether it’s giving advice, offering resources, lending an ear, giving a shoulder to cry on or just a friendly face to visit with. These women are AMAZING! I can’t say enough good things about it!

Recently we have been talking about praying; what to pray for, how we do it, who we pray for. I have always prayed like this “Please let the answers come to me! Make the parenting plan process easier than it really is! Make (insert name here) just go away so I don’t have to deal with them!” If it only worked like that…

I now go about it like this “Give me the wisdom to find the answers. Give me the patience and will power to work through this parenting plan. Give me the strength and courage to deal with (insert name here). Grant me the wisdom, grace, and strength to better myself as a parent.”

You will only be cheating yourself if your challenges and expectations are lowered. Keep your expectations high, look that challenge square in the face, and be ready to receive the powers to reach and accomplish. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right? So *fingers crossed* you don’t die.. Lessons will be learned and mountains will be climbed.

When I am having a tough time, I come to the Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.

So as I work on Strengthening myself to be the best parent I can be, I hope you are able to be strong in a tough situation in your life.

For some reason, I feel like signing off  ‘May the force be with you’



The Plan

I’m staring at a pink binder with a large stack of papers tucked into it. The oh so wonderful “Parenting Plan”!   Or ‘co-parenting guidelines’.. or ‘co-parenting suggestions’.. Just cause it’s called a ‘Plan’, doesn’t mean it will be THE Plan.

Growing up, my parents were very good about making sure we had a plan. Anytime we went out with friends, went to the mall, had soccer practice.. “Whats the plan?”  It was the Who, What, Where, Why, and When of it all.

That mind-set has rubbed off on me and I can’t do much without having a plan. I’m not so good at ‘winging it’. I need to know times, what to bring, whats going on.. And yeah.. I may get on my friends nerves sometimes.. “Lets just go and figure it out on the way!” or make my boyfriend contemplate breaking up with me with my constant questions and plan making..  Deal with it people! 🙂

Dylan’s dad and I had roughly, verbally, made a ‘plan’ for who has Dylan when. And now here I am, staring at my pink binder full of papers that I need to read through in order to get a ‘Plan’. Legal and on paper.

This is the one time where I don’t have a plan, I don’t have the answers, and I’m still trying to figure out where to start.

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