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Children think they know.. but they have noooo idea!

What’s Love?

Whats Love got to do with it, Got to do with it?…  What is Love? Baby don’t hurt me, Don’t hurt me no more… As long as you Love me. 

Thank you Tina Turner, Night at the Roxbury and Justin Beiber.. (did I really just THANK the Beibs?!)

Lately I have been thinking a lot about Love. Not because tomorrow is Valentines Day, but it just seems to have been popping up lately.

I LOVE my best friend. I LOVE my morning coffee. I LOVE my car. I LOVE my child. Even though I feel LOVE for all of these, It isn’t all the same Love. Love isn’t simple. Love is expressed in so many ways.

I have been listening to a book on tape (great for my morning and evening commutes!) by Bob Goff. It is titled  Love Does. The story that I heard this morning was about a young man named Ryan who was head over heels in Love with his girlfriend. He was so crazy in Love that he asked a complete stranger if he could use his backyard as the backdrop for his wedding proposal. The stranger recognized this Crazy Love and agreed. Ryan then asked if he and his girlfriend could use their deck for dinner before he proposed. The stranger agreed. In the end, the stranger had let Ryan use his deck for dinner and dancing and took the young couple out on his boat for an evening sail. The Love that Ryan had and the excitement that took over him had taken this stranger by storm. The story ends with Ryan’s proposal on the stranger’s boat on a beautiful starry night.. topped off with water cannons, that the stranger had set up to add to the magic and excitement of the evening. The stranger was Bob Goff. In this story he explains how Ryan’s, almost idiotic, Crazy Love was contagious, and he was so happy to say ‘Yes’ to Ryan’s requests. Yes, I teared up a bit in the car, I am a SUCKER for stories like this! Oh, By the way, Ryan’s girlfriend said ‘Yes’ 🙂

Bob says ‘Love is never stationary’. It isn’t something that just sits there, waiting. It’s an active, mental, emotional, physical thing. You have to do something with it, for it. Saying ‘I love you’ or that you Love something is almost an empty act. Doing something for Love is what proves your point. Doing something every time isn’t always necessary. (I know I don’t need a dozen roses every time I hear “I Love you”)

Love is so strong. It is so powerful. I don’t fully know it. I’m sure lots of people don’t understand it.

As a mother, I have learned to Love deeply. The Love I have for my child is a greater Love than I could ever imagine. As I tuck him in and kiss him goodnight, I tell him “I love you”. And the response I get is “Love you too, mom!” Just hearing that melts my heart. I can’t even explain to him how my heart hurts from all the Love I have for him.  

I enjoying Loving. I enjoy being Loved. I look forwards to learning how to Love more. 

In conclusion, I would LOVE to have another cup of coffee 🙂

“In the end, love doesn’t just keep thinking about it or keep planning for it. Simply put: love does” -Bob Goff

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What I learned from my kid..

There are a few things that I have learned from Dylan in 4 1/2 years..

  • If you change their diaper, they will poop as soon as you walk away
  • If you clean up the toys, there will be twice as many toys on the floor the next time you come into the room
  • As soon as they take a bath, they will want to eat spaghetti
  • As soon as they are in bed, they want a snack

My mom is probably laughing right now and chanting “I told you so!

     Here are a few things my mom learned from me.. in 18 years..

  • If you buy something new; whether it be a car or a couch, I will puke on it (ha ha)
  • Put sunscreen on the kid! 😉
  • Lipstick does not come out off couch cushions
  • When adult says “NO”, wild teenager hears “YES” (ha ha ha)

In the end, valuable lessons are learned, tears are shed, probably by both mom and child, and hugs are given.

Dylan has taught me some of the most important lessons in my life (He is a pretty smart 4-year-old)

  • Love is unconditional I still get hugs and kisses and cuddled after his timeout
  • Dinosaurs buried themselves in the dirt
  • Love comes in all forms “Mom, I got something for you cause I love you. It was in my nose”
  • Sometimes sleeping with a stuffed animal makes you feel better
  • Saying sorry takes a lot of effort, but has a huge effect
  • No one is going to love you more than your child does

Pretty good so far..  I am looking forwards to the many more years of lessons (or should I be worried?)

 I’d like to end by saying “Sorry for my teenage years, mom! I love you!” 🙂

Children think they know.. but they have noooo idea!

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Mommy, I’ll be your boyfriend

Dylan asked me why I was sad

“Cause Rob isn’t my boyfriend anymore”

A few minutes later Dylan peers around the corner

“Mommy? I’ll be your boyfriend”

My heart melted into a big sloppy puddle

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Dearest little one

Dearest little one..
Why is it that you are an angel ALL day for grandma, and the moment I walk in the door you turn into a Tasmanian devil..
Why is it that you don’t have an off button? I’d even settle for a dimmer switch..
Why is it that ‘bedtime’ is such a taboo word, yet as soon as you are in your pjs and curled up in bed, you are a sweet sleepy cherub..
Why is it that we have to watch Sonic the Hedgehog every night? Please start liking my shows..
Why is it that 20 minutes after we get in bed, you decide you just now want the food you were eating 4 hours ago..
Why is it that Donald Duck wraps a towel around his waist after his shower, but doesn’t wear pants..
Why is it that my side of the bed is always better than yours, and I only get 2 square feet of my queen size bed..
Why is it that you must have ALL your stuffed animals in the bed, yet you refuse to let me have my own pillow..
Why is it that you can get away with anything by smiling so big, that doesn’t work so well for adults..

Love,
Your Mom

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Best Mother’s Day gift?

Just alittle over 2 weeks away.. Mother’s Day is THE most important holiday. Right moms?! 😉

I always try to out-do my siblings with gifts for mom.. afterall, I am her favorite and give the best gifts, Right mom!?

I started my Mother’s Day shopping alittle early, gotta make sure I also out-do my last year’s gift. Cause Mom deserves better each year, cause just like wine, she gets better with time. (Im your favorite, right??)

I think I did a pretty dang good job this year. We shall see come May 13th! Im very excited for my ‘made in preschool’ gift from Dylan! He is soo proud of his projects and I love seeing his proud little smirk!

If your reading this, Id LOVE to hear from you! 🙂

Would you rather be pampered and waited on or have precious ME time?

What was your Best/Worst Mother’s Day gift? 

For the men- What have you given your mom/wife that she won’t let you forget? Good or bad.

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